WHEN SOMETIMES THINGS GO WRONG, BUT HAVE A HAPPY ENDING

There are moments so intense in your life where it shakes you to the core…. Remembering back to the evening of March 8, 2016, the moment when my sweet boy Eli was laying unconscious, no heartbeat or a gasp of air that we knew of going through his little body, can a mother truly survive this without dying inside, honestly at that time we had no idea what was going on with him, we called first responders, remembering how desperate I was for them to hurry up and help me, desperate questions crossed my mind, will they get here in time to rescue my little boy? Is this the end of me being mother to this precious boy, in a way words cannot describe the intense pain my heart and mind was going through.

It was a day like no other, except there are days so unpredictable I am not sure we could ever be prepared for, it was just a regular evening, a family friend joined us for some tea and sweets, lots of catching up to do since we have not seen him for about a year, he was finishing up his nursing degree, only a quarter left to complete, we were all just snacking and sipping our teas when my baby who was just shy of two months started fussing, I left the room to nurse her, and maybe only a minute passed, I just settled down comfortably to nurse my baby girl when I heard a huge commotion in the kitchen, right away I knew something was terrible wrong, my heart raced through my body so fast, I remember feeling so numb and paralyzed, I have tended to my other kids in the past when they were choking, I knew exactly what to do, to get the object out of their airway, but this one was different, this time I was dealing with a child who was completely unconscious, we thought he must have silently choked, but no one heard any gagging, so no sound was made he just slowly went down to the floor and passed out, our family friend right away started doing a Hynic Maneuver on him, it only took him couple of times and he started breathing again, soon after the first responders arrived, they checked his vitals and they found nothing wrong with him, but despite their evaluation they encouraged us to have him checked out at the ER. At the hospital they did all sorts of testing on him, x-rays, ct-scan, blood work, and to our relief all the results came back normal.

For the longest time everything seemed normal, he quickly bounced back to himself. Quite some time passed by, approximately about 6 months, during that time I was asking God to never put me through this again, but to my despair another episode happened and then another. Desperate, I went to my pediatrician with tons of questions to be answered, and so more testing was conducted, at first she sent us to a nose and throat specialist, all the testing that came back was normal, unfortunately another episode happened, we again went to the ER, and the doctor who was tending him there referred us to children’s hospital for further evaluated. At the children’s hospital some more testing was done, to make sure nothing life threatening was going on with him, when all the tests came back normal, the doctor suggested maybe he was having a seizure and she referred us to neurologist to see if that’s the case. These are all the major tests that were ordered by various doctors.

  • EKG ( a test that checks for problems with the electrical activity of your heart)
  • EEG (it records and prints the patterns of electrical activity in detailed information about child’s brain)
  • MRI ( is a painless procedure that uses strong magnets and radio waves to take pictures inside a body, such as of the brain, etc. )

All the test that were done on Eli came back normal, that was such a sign of relief.

Sometimes in life we meet people who are able to help us in the future, and there was someone God had in mind when He brought naturopathic doctor into our lives, when my youngest daughter was born I decided to take a different approach to health wellness check ups, and want to let you know I’ve had such a great experience seeing a doctor, with more natural way to approaching health, I like the fact that she looks at each case with out of the box approach, because every person is so different and there is never a one solution to an illness, or a disease. Like I said, I have been taking my little girl to see her since she was two months old, so desperate for answers, I decided to take my sweet boy and see how she could help me, at that point I have already seen a neurologist, and what the neurologist would be great help in, is if, my boy needed to be on medication, but to his evaluation he did not think Eli needed to be medicated, none of the test results showed that he had a reason for any of his seizures that he had. So when I brought my sweet boy to a naturopathic doctor she had some answers I was looking for, first of all it was so encouraging to talk to someone who themselves have gone through that, yes, she herself has had seizures in the past and been living free from it for the past 7 years, she also mentioned she is working with families who have had seizures, and especially since all Eli’s tests came back normal, no whatsoever abnormality in his brain waves, the solution that she had, looked very promising, wow, the relief I felt in my heart, and how comforting to know that there are other people out there who have problems like that, and still live a full, and productive life.

To explain to you in little detail to what she said, sometimes some people don’t absorb vitamin B in their bodies very well, but vitamin B is vital to healthy brain function, there is a blood test you can do to find out if that’s the case, but the cost is $500 dollars out-of-pocket (insurance does not cover that expense) so it was up to us if we wanted to find out and make sure that’s the case, but what she would recommend us to follow would be beneficial regardless if you do the test or not. so these were the foods she highly recommended to avoid

  • Artificial colors
  • Artificial flavors
  • Avoid chewing gums, it contains a chemical that is bad for you and some people are just more sensitive to it then others.

all those items are bad for you anyways so I had no problem taking them out of his diet, plus most of the time, I cook healthy with organic produce and vegetables, plus I am not a big fan of processed foods anyways, especially the ones with tons of food coloring and artificial flavors. So basically we have taken out candies that have artificial colors and flavors in it, which is most of them, but there are some that Eli’s doctor recommends that does not have all these bad additives, we also took chewing gum, and chocolate out of his diet. We make sure he gets a good night’s rest, and I am excited to tell you guys he has been seizure free for 4 and a half months, yay, he has been doing really good.

Our naturopathic doctor also recommended us to see a chiropractor, during his examination she noticed that his Atlas was misaligned, and that misalignment according to chiropractor could have been the cause of his seizures, to explain that idea more, you see one side of his neck was swollen, and eating lots of sweets could have contributed for that spot to swell up more, and possibly cause seizures, I did notice that somehow somewhere there was a connection with him eating sweets and having seizures, so that was my observation, we have taken care of his neck, and it’s good as new now.

To give you an idea what I’m talking about, this is an example of what Eli had, on one side the nerves were all pinched together, and that caused swelling on one side of the neck, he possible could have injured himself sometime in his life, or chiropractor also mentioned that it could have happened when he was coming out of birth canal. So I guess you never know if your Atlas is misaligned until you have it checked out.

Me and my husband also did plenty of research online ourselves and came across some information that has greatly benefited our boy, you see he has never really been a great sleeper, and I didn’t think it was too big of a deal, until these incidents happened, supposedly getting a good rest is vital to a healthy body, I know, I know, it’s basic common sense, but you see our sweet boy was so not sleepy a lot of the times, and I just thought what’s the big harm if he doesn’t get tons of sleep, I was so wrong, and first thing first we started making sure he goes to sleep at 8 pm, at first it was very, very hard, he was just not sleepy, so I would lay with him for hour or two to help him fall asleep, in the beginning he was deeply hurt by the whole idea that he had to go to sleep so early, but month into our sleep training his body finally picked up on it and now it takes him about only 10 to 20 min to fully fall asleep, so according to all the research me and my husband came across we learned the incidents of seizures in children or grown ups when not getting enough of good sleep goes up, with that information, we right away started putting our sweet boy on a sleep schedule,

God has been my source of strength throughout this whole process, I’ve learned to trust Him fully and to know despite all the hard things that we go through, He still has His best in mind, and is in total control, we just can’t see it for the moment. I’ve also learned that no matter whats going on around us, our true joy only comes from God, and nothing can take that away from me, and ultimately true joy can only be mine when I truly place all my trust in God, He is so much bigger than me and can see the whole picture, I can only see what’s right before me, and when I worry it means I don’t fully trust Him, but at the same time carrying all that burden in my heart can be just too overwhelming at times.

Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:6

You see we don’t have to do this all on our own, and that is so comforting to me.

I am so incredibly blessed to have a healthy boy like Eli, in every way he is growing and maturing like he should be, he is one smart boy, and so sweet and well-behaved, a huge joy in our lives, it’s just that sometimes we run into those bumps in our lives that shake us up, but me and my family have come out of it with more strength, wisdom, and understanding how fragile our lives are. Count your blessings, appreciate and love the precious people around you, because they are a huge gift from God.